I’m recovering from surgery which has involved some barbaric pain, pain pills, and brain fog, so let’s just say I haven’t been paying very much attention to this blog. I think I have missed Monday’s Question for the past two Monday’s. At the risk of sounding like a broken record, I am going to try to make a better effort at writing more and fulfilling my goal of posting a few times a week! Here’s Monday’s Question for this week.
Question: What rule of etiquette are you tired of seeing others break?
My Answer: Writing thank-you notes. When I was a little girl, I remember my mother
encouraging forcing me to sit down and write thank-you notes after receiving birthday and Christmas gifts. It was something that was expected of my sisters and me and in our household. You did it or you faced the wrath of my mother, and believe me, the wrath of my mother was something you didn’t want to incur! My mother taught me that writing thank-you notes was a way to show respect and appreciation to the “gift-giver.” It was the polite thing to do according to her. I remember at my wedding, many people brought gifts to the reception and when my husband and I got home from our honeymoon 9 days later to open those gifts, many were without cards or tags telling us who they were from. Needless to say, I never wrote thank-you notes to those gift-givers. I still feel a little guilty to this day when I use those nice gifts too.
Unfortunately, many people today completely overlook this aspect of etiquette. I read something recently that said about half of people do not write thank-you notes. Personally, I’m willing to bet that it’s MUCH higher than that! While I do NOT give gifts just to receive a thank-you note, I do agree with my mother that’s it’s the polite and proper thing to do. I have to admit, I can’t remember the last thank-you note I received for a wedding gift or baby gift that I’ve given (except from my niece Jessica and my sister obviously raised her right). I tried to teach my sons in the same way that I was brought up and taught them to write thank-you notes after receiving gifts. I don’t think I’m being old-fashioned in this tradition. I guess in a nutshell, it just makes me a little sad that rudeness seems to be the “in” thing these days.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this. What rule of etiquette are you tired of seeing others break?
Silent gratitude isn’t much use to anyone. ~G.B. Stern