Daily Prompt: Buffalo Nickel

Today’s daily promptDig through your couch cushions, your purse, or the floor of your car and look at the year printed on the first coin you find. What were you doing that year?

Well, since both my car and under my couch cushions have recently been vacuumed (what are the chances of THAT happening?), I had to go to my purse.  The coin I pulled out was a nickel from 1995.

1995 nickel

The year 1995 was memorable because it was my first year as a full-time stay-at-home mom.  I gave up my job as a veterinarian to be home with my kids.  My oldest son was five  years old and starting first grade that year and my youngest son was two years old.  I was feeling quite happy, excited, and blessed to be able to stay at home with my children.  I had felt I missed so much of my oldest son’s kindergarten year.  I worked nights so I missed important things like going to his kindergarten orientation meeting the first week and other special programs.  I felt his kindergarten teacher held that against me too because I remember asking her a question one day (I can’t even remember now what the question was) and I’ll never forget how belittled I felt when her comment to me was: “Well, Mrs. _____, if you HAD COME to the orientation the other night, you would know the answer to that question!”  I had explained to her prior to the orientation that I was the sole night shift veterinarian who worked at a clinic who stayed open until 10 pm and wouldn’t be able to miss work to come (which I deeply regretted).  As a working mother, I felt guilty.  I couldn’t seem to find a happy balance between work and being a mother.

My youngest son had significant speech/language delays which quite frankly had me worried.  We were very busy that whole year having medical evaluations done on him.  We had taken him for hearing tests and speech language evaluations.  Our pediatrician recommended a pediatric neurologist who did more testing.  We were referred to the Child Developement Center at Vanderbilt for all day testing by a team of doctors and specialists where autism was ruled out.  They referred us to the Genetics Center for genetic testing, mainly to rule out Fragile X syndrome, a common cause of speech and language delays in children.  We were told he had several of the physical characteristics that go along with that condition.  Thankfully, all his chromosomal studies were normal.  Yep, 1995 was a year that my husband and I did quite a bit of worrying.  Our son’s final diagnosis was developmental verbal apraxia (cause unknown) and he required intensive speech and language therapy.  We found a wonderful speech language pathologist through Vanderbilt where he started individual therapy.  We also enrolled him in a pre-school at the elementary school where he received both individual and group speech language therapy.  That is what I remember most about 1995– all the medical appointments and evaluations that we had done on our son.  The good news?  He thrived and began talking at age 4.

I also remember 1995 being a sad year as my father passed away in May of 1994.  I was still grieving deeply for him.

Gail ♥

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I am a wife, mother, sister, aunt, friend, veterinarian, and wanna be writer. I love nature and animals of all kinds, music, cooking, and spending time with my family.
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19 Responses to Daily Prompt: Buffalo Nickel

  1. Susan D. says:

    My middle monkey also had developmental speech apraxia. He didn’t really speak until he was 2 1/2 – and even then it was garbled. He is now almost 11 and is still in some pretty extensive speech therapy.

    • Gail says:

      From what I understand, there are all different degrees of apraxia. My son from ages 2-4 could say very few words. Then at age 4, something clicked and he started talking. But his speech was very garbled and slurred and my husband and I were the only ones who could understand him. He was in speech therapy throughout most of elementary school. It’s a very interesting “condition” isn’t it? My son is 20 now.

      Are you familiar with the book called “Childhood Speech, Language & Listening problems: What Every Parent Should Know”? It is by Patricia McAleer Hamaguchi. I thought it was an excellent book and I learned a great deal from it. I think there have been updated editions since mine. :)

      • Susan D. says:

        Thanks for the book suggestion! My son was like that too. Just started “talking,” out of no where, at almost 3. Even then, few could understand him

      • Gail says:

        You are welcome. I have just spent a while reading your blog and have thoroughly enjoyed it! You are a very engaging writer. I notice so many similarities in our boys. Both my sons were into origami. My oldest son’s 4th grade teacher gave him an origami book one day and he’s loved it ever since.

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  4. Indie says:

    I’m so traumatized by that teacher’s response. So unbelievable.

    • Gail says:

      Yep unbelievable. The school let go of her after that year. Let’s just say I wasn’t too surprised. I think it was her first and last year there.

  5. If teachers treat the parents that way how do they treat the children. I also had speech problems with my eldest daughter. She had gone to speech therapy for quite some time and only when I had changed her speech therapist did she actually start talking on a par with her own age group. There was one teacher who was also very rude to me about my daughter. My daughter turns twenty this year and is doing so well and she speaks beautifully.

    How horrible of that teacher to talk to you that way.

    I’m sorry for the loss of your dad, those who have past will live in our hearts forever.

    • Gail says:

      While going through all this with my son, I definitely learned a good speech therapist can make ALL the difference in the world. I am glad your daughter is doing well now.

      Thanks for the expression of your sympathy. I appreciate it.

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  7. determined34 says:

    As a teacher I apologise, for another persons wrong doing – note, I would never send a message like that to a parent. :) D 34

    • Gail says:

      No need for you to apologize. This teacher was very young and just starting out and obviously had a lot to learn. My son always liked her and said she was nothing but nice to him. She was let go from our school that year and I was really not surprised the following year when I learned she was no longer there. Years later, I ran into her while out shopping and we talked. She was very nice and courteous to me. I could only wish her well.

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  11. 1995 was a rough year for me too. My mom passed away after a long fight with cancer; a few days after her funeral my then 3 week old daughter was diagnosed with a severe heart attack. Funny how years later those things are memories but you can you can still feel the intensity of the feelings you were dealing with at the time.

  12. Gail says:

    OH MY! I can’t imagine getting news like that only 3 weeks after burying my mother!!! How does a 3 week old have a heart attack?

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